Mirrors unto ourselves ;part three


 the people in our lives
Having pointed out that  people are mirrors unto ourselves then we must ask ourselves what is the reason for things being like so.People come into our lives for a reason  and for a season .They come to teach us or help us and viceversa.Sometimes we are the teachers or the helpers and sometimes they teach us and help us.
They are those who will come and stay for only a short while yet  during that time they transform our lives or make an impact that change us forever.Others come and help us see opportunities or even open doors for us. They are those who will come and  become a source of discomfort or pain for us.Maybe its a new boss or a new boyfriend or girlfriend.It could even be your junior or a client.They bring out the worst in us.Thou most are not able to see this we look at this person as the source of our discomfort rather than see the ugly in us.These kind of people simply act as a catalyst they bring out that which is already within us.They test our patience, they make us angry ,some will even cause us heartbreaks.That part of us they challenge most is where we  need to change.If someone tests your patience maybe they are here to teach you humility or patience.These people push us out of our comfort zone and that is their reason for being in our lives.

They are those who challenge us to be better,to pull up our socks .In them we see what we want to be,they are a representation of our dream.They become role models or even mentors and others are just ordinary people like us who are living the life we secretly desire but our fear holds us back.They are those who come to compliment us ,they help us see our strengths and weaknesses alike. They help us see how much we have grown or changed.Their purpose is to paint a scenario in our lives that is similar to that which somebody else in our past already has.This helps us to see whether we have changed , whether our wounds have healed.Some would call it karma ,but whichever word we use the important thing is to understand what people provoke in us
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companions and soul-mates
They are those who simply become companions in this life.Soul-mate if i may use that term.Quite often the word soul mate is used in romantic meanings however a soul mate is he/she that understands our soul better than anyone else.It can be a parent,a friend ,brother or sister.These kind of people will come and stay forever.It is up to us to ask ourselves why are the people in our lives there.What role are they playing in our lives,Why are they here? What do we need to learn from them? Or are they teaching us?

 when the season ends

However ,when its all said and done the most difficult part is letting go.Sometimes death may take people away from us.At times they leave on their own and at times jobs,breakups or conflict will take them away.Whichever the case when time comes to leave most of do not know how to let go.We fight against the flow of life and fail to create space for new people and new things when we insist on the statusquo.

We must welcome people into our lives and we must let go when time comes no matter how painful.We must constantly ask ourselves  what are the life situations we are constantly finding ourselves in pointing us to.Why are the people in our lives here? New things will only come when we create space in our lives by letting go the old.